Matt. 3:13-17 THE HEAVENLY FATHER: EVERY DAD'S EXAMPLE
Intro: Ill. The context. As soon as the baptism of Christ is finished, the
Father speaks from Heaven. God chose that exact moment to verbally
associate Himself with his Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. In the words which
the Father spoke that day, we are given an example of how a godly father
deals with his children. In this passage we can see an example that every
dad needs to follow.
(Ill. Why is this so important? Because the way our children see us is
often the way they will see God. Ill. Ken Canfield tells about a theology
class at a certain seminary years ago: "On the first day of the semester,
the professor handed out a personal questionnaire. Many of the questions
on the survey had to do with the student's perceptions of his father and the
relationship he had with him. The surveys were collected and no more was
said of it. The students forgot all about them during the rigorous months
of studying about the First Person of the Trinity, His attributes, His work,
and His words.
"At the end of the course, the professor handed out a second survey.
This time the students were supposed to honestly record their perceptions
of God and feelings about their relationship with Him. The questions, in
fact, were the same as on the first survey they took, but redirected toward
the heavenly Father, not their earthly ones. When the professor returned
both sets of surveys, including the previously forgotten one, the students
were astounded that even after a whole semester of studying about God,
they still had trouble differentiating Him relationally from their earthly dads."
God is not merely like a father; He is a father.)
Now, don't misunderstand me, just because you aren't a father does
not mean that the Lord doesn't have a word for you as well. I believe that
there will be truths, which we all can glean from this message. You may
have never thought about it this way before, but today, I want us to look
together at The Heavenly Father: Every Dad's Example.
I. v. 17a THE FATHER IS NOT ASHAMED OF THE SON
A. Ill. "My Son." This statement tells is that God is not ashamed of the
Lord Jesus. (In fact, He is not ashamed of any of His children! Heb. 11:16.)
B. What an example to us human parents. Our children need to know
that we are proud of them and that we are not ashamed to claim them as our own.
(Ill. Several years ago in Louisiana, a motorist saw something
hanging from a tree. When he stopped to investigate, he found that
it was the body of a young teenaged boy. There was no
identification on the body. There was nothing but a note that said,
in part, "Dear Mom and Dad, I am sorry I was an embarrassment to
C. Children need constant affirmation from their parents and will usually
live up to your estimate of their worth! Therefore, be very careful
how you treat your children. Be quick to let them know that you are
proud of them, just like the Heavenly Father!
I. The Father Is Not Ashamed Of The Son
II. v. 17b THE FATHER ADORES THE SON
A. Notice that the Father calls the Son, "Beloved." This means One who
is dearly loved.
B. Children can live without many things, but love is not one of them!
Perhaps the greatest gift a parent can give a child, besides the
knowledge of the Lord, is the knowledge that they are loved
unconditionally. (Ill. Now, it is easy for us to say that we love that
way, but I am afraid that it is much harder to demonstrate!)
(Ill. One of the best ways for you to demonstrate godliness to your
children is for you to love them unconditionally. That is, we need to
love them like God the Father loves us - Jer. 31:3; Rom. 8:38-39.
Nothing should ever be allowed to cause a rift in our relationship with
our children!) (Ill. We all know of parents and children who are on
the outs. That is never right and is a mockery of what God intends
the family and the home to be!)
C. By the way, genuine love is not afraid to express itself! Tell them you
love them and tell them often. They need to hear those three magic
words: "I love you!" (Ill. How often does God remind us of His love
towards us? Let us resolve to do the same towards our children! Not
just them, but in all our family relationships!)
(Ill. Never be too stuffy and unemotional to respond to your children
in a genuine display of love. Ill. Janice Sue Zeiler writes, "I
remember when I was five or six years old having a big writing tablet
on which I could do block printing.
"One day I took a sheet of tablet paper, folded it in half, and wrote
'I love you' on the inside. I put my dad's name on the outside, covered
the sheet with hearts, and set it on his dresser. I had made a
valentine for him, and it wasn't even Valentine's Day! Eagerly I
anticipated what I thought would be an enthusiastic response. It
"The next afternoon I discovered the valentine in the wastebasket.
'This has to be a mistake,' I thought. 'He must not have seen it.' I
lifted the valentine from the trash and carefully stood it up in the
center of his dresser. My heart was pounding the next day when I
checked the wastebasket. It was there again! Only this time it was
crumpled with some other papers.
"'He must not have liked it!' I thought. 'Or maybe he didn't see it.'
I smoothed out the creases as best I could and placed the valentine
on his dresser once more. I made sure that it was very conspicuous
so that this time he would see it.
"The next day Dad called me to him. I remember feeling very shy.
'Will you quit putting that note on my dresser?' he demanded. 'I
already know that you love me!'
"When I became a Christian, I thought about finding that valentine
in the trash and about how hurt and angry I had felt. Why hadn't my
dad reached out in love to me?
"Then I thought about Jesus. Jesus had put a valentine on my
dresser. It had my name on the outside, and on the inside it said, 'I
love you.' The lettering was not with a pencil; it was written with
blood. It cost Jesus His life to send me His valentine. I'm glad that
I didn't crumple it and throw it away."
I. The Father Is Not Ashamed Of The Son
II. The Father Adores The Son
III. v. 17c THE FATHER ACCEPTS THE SON
A. Next, the Father says that He is "well pleased" with the Son. These
words mean "to approve of." God the Father looked at the man
Jesus Christ had become and said, "I approve of you my Son!"
B. Now, we all know that our children might not turn out exactly like we
expect them to. After all, who doesn't live in a fantasy world when it
comes to their own children? Our kids may make mistakes and they
may get into trouble, they may not be as successful as you think they
could be. They may not dress right or look like you think they should,
or any of 10 million other things could go wrong with our ideals for
their lives. However, if they are seeking to please the Lord, as Jesus
was, then we need to accept them as they are and love them
(Ill. We should never hold up our children's past before their eyes,
neither should have unrealistic expectations of them. We are to love
them and accept them as they are. Ill. In contrast to God, we are
often half-hearted in our acceptance of people by either directly or
indirectly reminding them of their past. This makes them feel that
they don't quite belong. For example, a minister was visiting a rich
man who had adopted a 12-year-old boy he had taken in from the
streets. While the two men were talking, the boy, now 15, came into
the room. After a casual greeting, the father went to the closet, pulled
out a pair of tattered old shoes, and said, "Fred was wearing these
when I found him." The minister saw that the teenager was
embarrassed and deeply hurt. But the father went on, "I think it's
good for him to be reminded every once in a while of his condition
when I took him in." Silently the pastor prayed, "Thank You, Lord, for
accepting me fully. Thank You for not dragging out my old shoes!"
C. There is a word here for children. If you are going to live like the devil, please do not expect your parents to place their seal of
approval upon your live. It is unfair to expect it and a godly parent
cannot give it. There will be love, but sometimes, love must be
(Ill. Parents: You do your children no favors when you offer blanket
approval to their sinful ways. Perhaps your disapproval is just the
wakeup call they need!)
I. The Father Is Not Ashamed Of The Son
II. The Father Adores The Son
III. The Father Accepts The Son
IV. John 5:17-20 THE FATHER APPRENTICES THE SON
A. Jesus is telling those listening that since the Father loves Him, the
Father includes the Son in His work and allows Him to be a part of
His life. Jesus is merely saying that the Father is working, He loves
the Son and shows Him what He is doing. When He shows the Son
His work, that is the Father's invitation for the Son to join Him in His
activity. (By the way, that will still work today!)
(Ill. Rusty Stephens of the Navigators tells a story about the day he
was frantically pushing the lawn mower around the yard, trying to get
finished before supper. His six-year-old son came up and, without
even asking, grabbed the mower handle. He wanted to help. So
Stephens quit pushing, and the mower soon came to a stop.
Laughing to himself at the boy's futile attempt to push it by himself,
Stephens wanted to say, "Hey, kid, get out of my way" but instead he
offered, "Here, son, I'll help you." Together they started pushing. The
dad had to bend over and walk spread-legged to keep from bumping
into the son. The grass got cut, but a whole lot less efficiently than
before--because the boy was "helping."
Suddenly it dawned on Stephens. "This is the way my heavenly
Father allows me to 'help' Him build His kingdom," he thought. "I
pictured my heavenly Father at work seeking, saving, and
transforming the lost, and there I was, with my weak hands 'helping.'"
God could do the work Himself a lot more efficiently, but He
condescends to allowing us to work with Him. What a privilege it is to
minister with Him!)
B. The godly father takes the time to include his children in his life. He
models appropriate behavior before them, and more often than not,
they will follow his example.
(Ill. Our time with our children is essential. Ill. A young man was to be
sentenced to the penitentiary for committing forgery. The judge had
known him from childhood, for he was well acquainted with his father,
a famous legal scholar and the author of an exhaustive study entitled
The Law of Trusts. "Do you remember your father?" asked the
magistrate. "I remember him well, your honor," came the reply. Then
trying to probe the offender's conscience, the judge said, "As you are
about to be sentenced, and as you think of your wonderful dad, what
do you remember most clearly about him?" There was a pause; then
the judge received an answer he had not expected. "I remember, sir,
when I went to him for advice, he looked up at me from the book he
was writing and said, `Run along, boy, I'm busy!' When I went to him
for companionship, he turned me away, saying, `Run along, son; this
book must be finished!' Your honor, you remember him as a great
lawyer; I remember him as a lost friend." The magistrate muttered to
himself, "Alas! Finished the book, but lost the boy!" )
(Ill. Time spent with our children is never wasted. Ill. Charles Adams,
the son of President John Adams, wrote in his diary one day: "Went
fishing with my son today--a day wasted." The boy, however, had a
different perspective on the day. The entry in his diary for that date
reads: "Went fishing with my father--the most wonderful day of my
(Ill. It is as simple as this: If you want your child to_________, then
you _____________. This is the way the Bible says that it works,
C. The greatest truth or lifestyle we can show them is to point them to
the Lord Jesus Christ. Dads, have you made sure that your children
are saved? Are they sure about you?
Conc: I do not think for a minute that any of us earthly dads will ever reach
the level of love that the Heavenly Father exhibits for His Son. However,
I think we could all do a better job of modeling the Father than we do. For
Instance, did you know that a recent survey of 5 year old's found that they
would rather give up their father than their TV? Did you know that more
collect calls are made on Father's Day than on any other day of the year?
Listen to this interesting story, A nun who worked in a men's prison was
asked by one of the inmates if she would buy him a Mother's Day card to
send to his mom. "She agreed, and word traveled fast; soon hundreds of
inmates were asking for cards. Resourcefully, the nun contacted a
greeting card manufacturer, who obliged with crates of Mother's Day cards,
all of which she passed out.
"Soon afterward, she realized that Father's Day was approaching and,
thinking ahead, she again called the card manufacturer, who responded
quickly with crates of Father's Day cards. Years later, the nun said she still
had every one of those cards. Not one prisoner requested a card for his
"Clearly, men in prison lack fathers."
Perhaps as you have listened to this message, you have realized that
there is room for improvement in your life as a parent, whether you are a
mom or dad. Maybe you have lost children and you haven't lived for the
Lord as you should have before them and you want to pray for them today.
Maybe you have never been saved. I want you to know that you can never
be the kind of parent that you should be until you first come to know the
Lord. I want to invite you to come and receive Him into your life. Whatever
you need, I want you to know that the Heavenly Father is there to help you
and make whatever is wrong right again! Will you come to Him this