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David: A Man After God’s Own Heart – Sermon #20
2 Samuel 19:16-23
A PORTRAIT OF A FORGIVING HEART
Intro: Our journey through David’s life has carried us across the high mountain peaks of success and through the horrible valleys of failure. We have seen David when he was walking the power of God and when he was wallowing in the depths of sin. We have rejoiced with him in his victories and we have wept with him in his defeats. But, through all the times of David’s life, one thing has remained constant: David has proven time and time again why God called him “a man after Mine Own heart.
How can we say that David was a man after God’s Own heart when he was guilty of adultery, deceit and murder? What we fail to remember is that David was a good man and he was a godly man, but he was still human. When he excelled, he rose to the top. When he failed, he plummeted to the very bottom. But, through it all, David was quick to get things straightened out with God. Yes, he failed and he failed big. But, when he was confronted with His sin, confession was quickly offered and repentance was swift. David was a man after God’s Own heart because David was a man who kept short accounts with God.
passage we are considering to day is one that reveals David’s heart. He is returning to
Today, I would like for us to examine this meeting between David and Shimei. I would like for us to get a glimpse of David’s heart on this occasion. David’s reaction in these verses gives us A Portrait Of A Forgiving Heart. He teaches us all a lesson that we desperately need to learn. Let’s observe some of the elements of David’s relationship with Shimei. These elements teach us how to respond when we are injured by others and they teach us how to develop a forgiving heart. Today, I want to preach on the subject: A Portrait Of A Forgiving Heart.
I. THE ATTACK DAVID SUFFERED - 2 Sam. 16:5-23
It Involved Caustic Words
As David is leaving the city of
But, that’s not all Shimei had to say to David that day. He calls him a “bloody man and a son of Belial.” The phrase “bloody man means murderer. The phrase son of Belial means a vain, worthless man.” So as he approaches, Shimei keeps on saying. “Get out here you murderer. Get out of here you fool, you nobody!
The words of Shimei must have cut the heart of David like a knife. We have all had people say hurtful things to us and about us. When it happens, it hurts and it makes us angry. So, David is attacked by caustic words.
B. It Involved Cruel Works Not only did Shimei use words to attack David, but he also used stones. While he hurled invectives against David, Shimei also threw rocks at David. He wanted to hurt David’s heart with his words and his flesh with his stones. Another thing to consider is the fact that Shimei is trying his best to publicly humiliate David.
It hurts when we are attacked by others. When people hurl words in our direction, or when they attack us publicly, or even behind our backs. It rips us open to bone when we are humiliated by the words and deeds of others. Ever been there?
The words of Shimei in verse 8 are nothing but blatant lies. In fact, there are three lies in this verse.
1. God is getting revenge against David for murdering Saul and his family. That is a lie! Saul committed suicide and his sons were killed in battle.
2. David, you stole the throne. That is a lie! The throne was given to David by a sovereign act of God.
3. God has given your throne to Absalom. That is a lie! Absalom took the throne of his father by rebellion.
Here is the bottom line. Shimei was the “son of Belial. He was the kind of person who would kick another man when he was down. At this moment in time David is at the lowest point of his life. His kingdom and his family are in shambles. He is an outcast and is own the run from his own son. In the midst of this here comes Shimei. He finds David at a vulnerable moment and he attacks him. It doesn’t get any lower than that!
You ever been there? Have you ever been kicked when you were down? It hurts doesn’t it?
What are we supposed to do when we are attacked? Are we supposed to get even? Are we supposed to go after our “pound of flesh?” When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back twice as bad as they hurt us. Isn’t that what we are supposed to do?
No, we are supposed to do just what David did. We are supposed to place the matter in the hands of the Lord and leave it with Him. He knows what was said and what was done. He knows the motive behind the attack. He knows how to settle the score if it needs to be settled, Rom. 12:14-21; Lev. 19:18; Pro. 24:29. He knows how to give you grace to get past the hurt. God’s design for His children is that we become like Jesus, 1 Pet. 2:23; Isa. 53:7.
So, the next time you are cursed, attacked, threatened, lied about, etc, what are you going to do? Well, you can step outside of God’s will and handle it yourself. Or, you can take the high road and leave it in the hand of God. By the way, if you determine that you are going to be like Jesus, you had better keep a tender heart ready to forgive, and you had better a skin as thick as that of a rhinoceros because you are going to be attacked.
Learn like David did to deal with these kinds of matters at the very moment of offense. If you don’t, that hurt will fester into something for worse and far more dangerous. If we are not diligent in handling these matters the right way, that offense will grow into resentment. From there, it is just a short step into hatred. That hatred will produce bitterness; and bitterness will find a way to seek revenge.
It is wise to learn to place our hurts in the hands of the Lord and walk away from them. He can handle the matter far better than we can!)
II. THE ADMISSION DAVID SECURED - 2 Sam. 19:16-20
A. v. 18 There Was A Humble Confession When Shimei comes before David, he falls at his feet in humility. This is a far different attitude than he displayed the last time his path crossed that of David. Perhaps Shimei has had time to contemplate his mistakes.
B. v. 19-20 There Was An Honest Confession Shimei said the three hardest words known to man: I have sinned.” He made a full and complete confession of his wrong in his attack on David.
C. v. 19-20 There Was A Hopeful Confession Shimei hopes that David wont hold the past against him. He seems genuinely sorry for what he has done and is hopeful that David will offer him forgiveness.
Now, before we look at David’s response to Shimei, I think we should take a moment to find something that speaks to our own hearts. The truth is, we have all been hurt. But, the sadder truth is that we have all been on the other side too. We are all guilty of saying things out of turn; talking about someone else; doing hurtful things; and even of telling lies on another person. When life finds us in this position, what are we supposed to do? We are to do exactly what Shimei did. We are to go to the person we have offended and we are to confess to them what we have done and we are to seek their forgiveness. That is the clear teaching of the Bible, Matt. 5:23-24; James 5:16.)
III. THE AMNESTY DAVID SUPPLIED - 2 Sam. 19:21-23
A. What David Prevented Again, Abishai wants to kill Shimei, but David prevents his violent nephew from killing the humbled man. In other words, David stood as a protector of the very person who had wronged him. That is grace!
B. What David Perceived David knew that this was a day of rejoicing and a day of forgiveness. He also perceived that it was a day of grace in his own life. He was returning to glory to reclaim his throne and it was only so because God has forgiven him and had given him grace and not what he deserved.
What David Promised David
promised forgiveness and amnesty to Shimei.
Why? It had not been many days
since David himself had sinned against Uriah, Bathsheba, the nation of
Second, just as we should be quick to forgive, we should learn to express that forgiveness. In other words, don’t just think it, say it! When something happens, we may pray about the matter and leave it with the Lord, but the offending party needs to know that they have been forgiven. We need to reach out to those who reach out to us!
What if someone hurts us and they don’t deal with it? Can we hold a grudge then? Is it all right to be angry with them until they come around begging our forgiveness? No! Regardless of what they do to us or say about us we should have the same spirit Jesus displayed when He was on the cross and he said, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do, Luke 23:34.)
After some discussion with the women, I called the husband. When he arrived at my study, I told him what had happened. Turing to his tearful and fearful wife, he said, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s make a new start.”
Many things had to be straightened out and much hurt had to be healed, but his response of forgiveness, made possible by his own understanding of the forgiveness of God, became the basis of a new joy and a new life.”)
The enemy arrived, and the man opened one eye, and said to him, "My enemy, I have called you here today to say I'm sorry for all the wrong I've done to you."
Then he paused, and added, "But mind you, if I ever get BETTER, you be sure that the old grudge still holds good!"
you glad that God does not forgive like man does? When God forgives, He also forgets, Jer. 31:34. Thank God, that truth is sounded forth again
and again in the Bible.
It takes effort; it takes grace and it may take all that we have, but we should strive to give forgiveness to the same level that we have received forgiveness. No wonder the disciples asked the Lord to increase their faith, Luke 17:5.)
Conc: How are you doing in the arena of forgiveness? Are you practicing the kind of forgiveness that pleases the Lord? Or, are you in the business of holding grudges and getting even? If there is a hurt that needs to be forgiven, this would be a good time to deal with it. If you are the offending party, it would be a good time to go to that other person and say, “I am sorry! We should seek to forgive to the same level that we have been forgiven. And, we should strive to keep short accounts with our fellow man.
I can condense this message down into two statements. When we are wrong we need to admit it. When we have been wronged, we need to forget it.
 Stuart Briscoe, What Works When Life Doesn’t (Wheaton, Ill.: Victor Books, 1976), 99.